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 Harriet's Blog
"50 Great Writers You Should Be Reading"
I have been selected as a finalist for a competition in which 50 Great Writers for 2011 are selected. When I began writing some years ago, little did I know that this would be one of the hallmarks of the journey. In my life experiences, there have been many setbacks,it's fair to say I have seen many ups and downs. As I look back over the series of events which precipitated this turning point in my life, I am sure of this one truth; You will never be happy unless you pursue your dream. I have learned it's not about the destination. It's the journey along the way that brings the greatest joy,the greatest achievement and the greatest victory.
The one thing I have learned is to never loose sight of your dream. Never give up. Never quit. I have found greater happiness in pursuing my dreams. I have found purpose and passion and a quest for life. I may not have all the things I want to have, but life is not made up of things nor is it the importance we attach to things. Life is made of laughs, love, tears, joy, sorrow, achievement. You can call these the intangibles. The tangible stuff such as where we live, work, are things we attribute to trophies of our achievements. I have resolved never to live another day of my life surrounded by misery. I pledge to laugh every day. I have found that laughter is indeed the best medicine. And after all the adversities, after all the pain, it's now my turn to laugh.
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Live, Laugh, Love
Conflict Resolution- An End To Violence
I have decided to write about using Conflict Resolution techniques as a method to end violence in our society. With the recent escalation in violent episodes nationally and in London,England it has become necessary for us as a society to review and adopt certain methods of resloving situations of conflcit.
As a people, we are of varying backgrounds and perspectives.There will be areas in which we will disagree from time to time.However things do not have to fall apart due to our different viewpoints. Here are some things to do when placed in a situation of conflict:
Exercise Self -Control.You are the only one who controls how you will you will react to any given situation.
Respect the other person's point of view
BE CALM
Listen actively,
Empathize
Establish Boundaries- express your desired outcome.
Be conscious of your body language. Pointing a finger at the other person tends to inflame them
Validate them
Reframe your Words
Replace negative words with neutral terms
Understanding the content of what is being said and the meaning it has for the other person.
To solve conflicts effectively we to need listen carefully to the other person's point of view and take their feelings and concerns seriously, while at the same time stating your side of the situaiton in a straightforward manner.
You must state your position by expressing your views,needs,concerns and feelings. Doing this helps the other person gain insight about how to handle the conflict.
On your side, when stating what your needs and concerns are you need to;
Be brief; Your message needs to be easy to understand.
Honesty is the best policy. Be honest, say what you mean so the other person is not left wondering what you really wanted to say, or how you really felt about the situation.
Be Non-Judgemental. Need I say more? State the facts please. Do not identify in your discourse statements that seem to attack the other person's opinions, actions or points of view. Avoid using words or phrases that might sound threatening to others.
Be Open and Flexible. Listeninng to the other person's viewpoint might just provide an alternative solution. It's always a good idea to start off by assuming everyone wants a succesful resolution to the conflcit.
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